Wisdom While we Wait


“Wait for the Lord;

be strong, and let your heart take courage;

wait for the Lord!”

Psalm 27:14

Are you waiting for something?

Maybe there is something that you have been praying about; you may have been praying about it for a while. Do you ever feel like giving up? Do you ever wonder if God even hears you?

Let me assure you that He does, but sometimes God is telling us to wait.

We, as  a people, have gotten so accustomed to things happening right now that we have forgotten how to wait.

Look with me at the world in which we live. Just about everything we do is instant.

If you want something quick to eat, where do you go? You drive to the local “fast food” restaurant, pull up to the window and order. In just a few minutes you have your food (if you are lucky) and you are on your way.

How about the way we communicate? When I was a kid, I did not know anything about e-mail, Facebook, or texting. If I wanted to talk to a friend, I had two options: Call or write a letter. I can remember writing  a letter to a friend and having to wait for three or four days, sometimes even a week to receive a response. Kids today would not know what to do with themselves if they had to live that way. If a child wants to talk to a friend, they either pick up the cell phone and text or they go to Facebook and immediately they are connected.

Has this way of life spoiled us as a society?

I believe it depends on how you look at it. I have to admit that I do enjoy being able to pick up my phone and instantly be connected with my husband or family in other cities and states. I believe where the problem comes into play is when we expect everything in life to be instant.

There are, and will, be times all through life when we will be called to wait.

So, what do we do while we wait?

As I thought about this question, this phrase came to my mind: Wisdom while we wait.

What does that mean? Well, I believe that we have a job to do while we wait on God. If we are praying for something particular, if we are waiting on a promotion at work, or if we are waiting on healing to take place in ourselves or a loved one, we have a choice to make. We can worry, complain, and whine or we can pray, trust, and seek wisdom.

The choice is up to us.

I know it is easier to do the first rather than the latter. Trust me when I say, ” I am not very good at waiting.” I must admit, I have been spoiled to this instant world in which we live, and I am having to learn to wait. I am having to learn to seek Godly wisdom while I wait, and I am learning that there are lessons to be learned while waiting.

Sometimes when I pray, I want to get up and –BAM!– I want an answer. God does not always work that way. Sometimes we have to wait. Sometimes the time is not right.

We have to remember that we can not see the whole picture as can God.

The best way for me to understand God is to relate my relationship to Him with the relationship between parent and child. After all, we are God’s children.

Sometimes our children ask for things and they do not understand what they are asking. Raising two boys, we get some pretty crazy questions. Sometimes we can answer, “yes”, sometimes we have to answer, “no”, and yet other times our answer is, “wait.”

Last weekend we were riding ATVs with our children. Our oldest son pulled up beside my husband and me and asked, “Can I let loose and see what this thing will do?” Of course my husband’s response was, “NO!” What seemed like a fun adventure to a child, would have most certainly turned tragic had we granted his request.

God is the same way with His children. There are times I have prayed and have either received a “yes” or “no”. These answers for the most part are easy to accept because the answer is final and we have clarity.

It is the times when we hear God say, “wait”, that are the hardest. These are the times when we have to decide what we do while we wait. As I said earlier, we have a choice to make. Do we whine or do we seek wisdom?

I pray that we will learn to trust God when he tells us to wait, and seek Him while we wait. There are times when God is wanting us to learn something while we are waiting and we need to seek that Godly wisdom. We may discover that what we thought we wanted at the time was not the right thing for us, or we may discover that it was not the right time and it will be answered in God’s time. Either way, we need to trust God’s answer.

God loves us and He knows what is best for us, just as we love our children and know what is best for them. He will give us what we need as He sees fit. Our job is to trust that “Father knows best,” and not to question God when he tells us to wait.

I hope this has been a blessing to you today.

I pray that we will remember to seek wisdom while we wait.

God bless you, friend.

Motivational Monday: Make it Count

time well spent

” To every thing there is a season,

and a time to every purpose under the heaven” 

Ecclesiastes 3:1

Make it count.

There are a lot of areas in life where we use this term.

We use it in sports when we are talking about scoring a point. You have one shot; make it count.

We use this term when we are talking about spending money. Make every penny count. 

Today I am talking about time spent as a family. Make every minute count. It is passing more quickly than you know.

This weekend was fun for our family. We did not have any big plans. We did not have some big goal in mind to reach.

I told my husband last week, ” I want Friday to be a family day for us.” To my delight, our Friday turned into an entire weekend spent together.

Friday evening we made homemade pizza, watched television together, and watched the kids play some new games they had gotten. All in all, it was just a fun relaxing evening with our children.

Saturday played out just about the same way. We did not have anything in particular to do. We were just together as a family. We watched the kids play in the yard, we visited with family, and we even rode our ATVs around for a while.

Sunday found us in church as a family. The afternoon was spent outside, watching the kids play and visiting together.

We made this weekend count.

I believe as  a  mom, that it is very important to share these times with our children. There are so many things going on in life. I believe that as parents we need to take time with our children to just make memories.

Make your time count.

There does not have to be a lot of money spent, or a far off adventurous vacation taken. Time well spent can be taken right where you live.

Whatever your circumstances are, make it count.

If all you can do is sit together and play a game, make it count.

If you can cook a meal together, make it count.

If you can build something together, make it count.

Whatever it is that your family can do to spend time together, do it. You will make memories that you and your children will remember for years to come.

As a parent, I sometimes get caught up in the bigger and better moment. I want to give my kids the biggest and the best.

This weekend was a reminder to me that bigger is not always best. It is about quality, not quantity.

This weekend I had the privilege of watching my family play together, laugh together, and make memories together.

I thank God for my family. My husband is my best friend and I pray that God allows me to have many more years with him. My children are the light of my life. I love watching them grow and change. Most of all I love to see them smile, to know that they are happy. I love knowing that we are raising them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord (Ephesians 6:4)

I want to encourage you today. Make your time count. Remember: it is not about quantity, it is about quality. You do not have to spend a lot of money or make big extravagant plans. Do what you can do, but make it count. You will be glad you did.

I hope this has motivated you today.

Now, I would like to challenge you. Make plans soon to have a family day. It does not have to be just like ours. Make it your own.

I would love to hear about it. Consider leaving a comment telling us what your day was like, and what you did that was special to you.

This may be a regular occurrence at your house. If it is, kudos to you!

If you have suggestions you would like to share,  I would love to hear them.

How do you make your time as a family count?

In the Stillness

Photo by: Photo{ART}graphy

Photo by: Photo{ART}graphy

 “Be still, and know that I am God:

I will be exalted among the heathen,

I will be exalted in the earth.”

Psalm 46:10

Every morning I get up many hours before my children do. I do this for a few reasons. If you are a parent you will understand one of them.

It is about more than just having time alone,however. It is about my time with God. It is about getting still, being quiet, and listening.

Before the day gets busy with cooking, cleaning, laundry, bills, refereeing arguments, and answering endless questions, I need time to get alone with God.

How often do we really get still any more?

With the introduction of television, cell phones, computers, and video games, we have become a busy people.

I have discovered in my own life that time alone with God is crucial.

When I was younger, and my children were much smaller, we would all wake up at the same time and the day would start. I noticed that I felt out of balance, as if something was missing.

I will never forget the day I was sitting in church and the Lord spoke to me. My dad, who is also my pastor, preached a sermon entitled: Consider your ways. He read from Haggai 1: 1-15. His sermon was about how the people had built a foundation for a temple, but then left it to work on their own houses. And God was telling them, “Consider your ways.”

I felt God say to me, “You have neglected your temple. Consider your ways.”

I realized that day that I needed to make some changes. Yes, I was a Christian. No, I had not rebelled against God, but I had neglected to maintain my temple. I had been building my spiritual life since I was a child, but somehow in the busyness of marriage, children, and life, I had walked away from it.

I made the decision to clean up my temple, to find time every day to get alone with God. I learned to get still, get quiet, and listen for His voice.

That decision changed my life.

Yes, there are still times when life seems more than I can handle. Yes, I still have to take care of all the things that I use to, but I find it easier now. I find that I do not feel as overwhelmed by life, by trials, and by the troubles that life can throw at me.

I believe this is because I am maintaining my temple, I am putting God first, and I am spending quiet time alone with Him.

Do you have a special time in your day when you get quiet, when you get alone with God and let Him speak to your heart?

I want to encourage you today. I pray that if you have not made this a priority in your life, that you will make the decision today to change that. I can promise you that you will not regret it.

Yes, there will be times when you forget or something happens and you get out of routine. I believe the important thing is that you do your best.

Make it a point every day to get alone with God. He wants to speak to you, to encourage you , to love you , and to guide you.

Please consider what has been said today, and make a decision right now to begin maintaining your temple.

Here is a song that I believe God placed in my heart this morning. I pray it will be a blessing to you.

The Lost and Found

The Lost Drachma

(Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“Either what woman having ten pieces of silver,

if she lose one piece,

doth not light a candle,

and sweep the house,

and seek diligently till she find it?”

Luke 15:8

Do you ever lose things? Surely I am not the only one who misplaces things from time to time. Well, it is a little more often than that with small children running around.

In our house there is always something missing. With three young children we are always misplacing things, be it shoes, toys, or games; the list goes on and on.

Our latest adventure took place just this week.

During the summer my children really enjoy getting to go to the library. Each week I take them to return books that have been read and to check out new ones.

Sister, our youngest child, bless her heart, just can not seem to keep up with her library books. She is so excited on library day, and by the time we get home the books have already lost their appeal and they are thrown down and forgotten.

I often ask her, “Sister, do you know where your books are?” It does not surprise me any more when she says, “No,” and runs off to look for them.

This round of misplaced books was quite the ordeal. Somehow in the shuffle of a busy house, the books had gotten stuffed in a drawer with all kinds of other papers and such things. We have spent countless hours looking for these elusive library books.

Today, I made it a rule that no child was to get any of their privileges until each book was found. As I watched my children frantically search the house, I was reminded of a Bible story that I heard as a child.

In Luke, Jesus tells a parable of a woman who had ten pieces of silver and one gets lost. In the story the lady searched diligently for the lost coin until she found it. She then called all of her neighbors and, rejoicing, told them the grand news.

Friends, we are lost coins. Each one of us, until we come to know Jesus as our personal Savior, are lost just as the coin in this story was lost.

Praise God we do not have to stay lost! For just as the lady in this story searched for the lost coin until she found it, Jesus searches for us. He calls for us, He waits for us, He draws us to Himself. And when we are found, the Bible says that the angels in Heaven rejoice! (Luke 15:10)

I do not know where you are today. I pray that you are covered by the blood of Jesus.

If you are reading this and you know that like this coin, you are lost, separated from God and His love for you, you have a choice. You are not helpless like this coin. You do not have to stay where you are, waiting to be found. You can make the decision to go to God. Seek His face, place your sins at His feet, and be found today. He is waiting for you, friend.

I pray that you will take a moment to examine your life. Where are you? Are you lost? Or are the angels in Heaven rejoicing because you have been found, your name written in the lamb’s book of life, and your sins covered by the blood of Jesus?

I would love to hear from you. If you have made the decision today to follow Jesus, I would like to rejoice with you over the lost being found.

If you would like to know more about God’s saving power and how to receive Him into your life, I would be happy to discuss it with you. You can leave a comment here and I will respond as soon as possible.

God bless you today, friend.

Note from Valarie

I wanted to take just a minute and say, “Thank you,” to my friend, Jamie Gaddis, for creating the image you now see at the top of my blog. I wanted a picture that would capture exactly what EFED was all about and I believe she did a fantastic job of doing just that.

If you are interested in seeing more of her work, you can visit her Facebook page here:


I hope you enjoy the new face of Encouragement for Every Day as much as i do.

I pray it will be a reminder to us all that we can find the encouragement we need every day by searching God’s Word.

God bless you.